Losing a loved one is one of the most traumatic things that can happen to anyone. Sometimes when a death is expected, a lot of sorting occurs before passing and people have the chance to go through their belongings and distribute treasured possessions to family and friends. There is an opportunity to dispose of, or donate items that are no longer useful, loved or needed.
But when death is sudden, the task of sorting out these possessions can be huge. Coupled with the pain of grieving a loved one, it can be overwhelming.
Grief is an important process that should not be rushed. There is no right or wrong time to start doing this. If you have the luxury of time, you can start when you are ready. However, for those who don’t, ie. you may need to vacate a room or sell a house quickly, then you may find yourself dealing with a whole range of conflicting needs.
These demands together with your emotions can lead to mistakes, so you need to have a clear plan to help keep you focused. Going through your loved one’s possessions is going to be an emotional time.
• Prepare yourself to be flooded with memories. • Prepare for tears, laughter and sadness. • Expect a few surprises. • Prepare for the feeling of being stuck and not able to continue. This is not unusual and not something you can rush if you’re not ready. • Be kind to yourself. Allow the tears, the grief and perhaps even regrets. It’s all part of the process.
By working alongside and gently guiding you, helping you to let go and move on. We will support and encourage you and most of all, listen.
Maybe you would prefer not to be present. That is absolutely fine, she can discuss how you would like to proceed. It really is your decision.
Sensitivity and understanding can help you through a difficult time, whether it be packing up belongings or helping to dispose of unwanted items.
Together you can sort out your loved ones’ possessions:
• We decide together what goes where and take things to local charity shops if you wish. • We provide boxes, tape, coloured bags and labels for sorting things, packing them neatly and with care. • Non-clothing items will be carefully wrapped and packed for either keeping or giving away. • Some items may need to be disposed of. Black bags will be provided and we will dispose of them for you. • We can provide telephone numbers and addresses of charities, organisations and house clearance if you require them. • When we leave, we will make sure that you have a clean and tidy home.
We are also happy to come to your home if you just need a thorough clean after a house clearance.